This is a follow up of introduction to campaign on job search depression.
We are in a competitive world. At every stage of life, we are continuously measured with various numbers such as percentage, marks and grades. People around us advise us to be ahead of competition and beat the hell out of others in the race of life.
To what limit? Should we exert ourselves to such an extent that our feelings convert into depression?
Here is my quick advice to students who are depressed about not finding jobs.
- There is no limit to try again.
- One success can over shadow hundred failures.
- Nobody talks about your failures once you succeed.
- Measure efforts, not results.
- Ten failures doesn’t guarantee eleventh one.
- Success and failure is a game of God.
1. There is no limit to try again.
After doing ten failed interviews, people tend to form a conception that it is a shameful thing to do too many failed interviews. However this conception is not true. I personally know people who had found success after doing 35 interviews. Those people proudly relish the fruit of success after their hard work. So don’t get into a feeling that you have failed interviews too many number of times. In fact, you should gain experience with every interview, and keep getting better at each interview.
2. One Success can over shadow hundred failures:
Here is the thing. Read auto biography of a successful entrepreneur or scientist. You would be surprised to find that the successful celebrity struggled in his life with repetitive failures. Their super success covers up all the failures that they have undergone. Take the case of the famous playback singer, S.P Balasubramanyam. He was rejected for application as a playback singer in All India Radio. Today, he is a veteran singer who has sung over 50,000 songs and has received the honour of “Padma Bhushan”, the third highest civilian award in India. So, one success can over shadow hundred failures.
3. Nobody talks about your failures once you succeed.
People are always criticizing. Sachin Tendulkar, being the cricketer who has achieved more than any other cricketer can ever dream, is still criticized by the media and public. So understand that this society enjoys gossip and criticism. It’s not a serious thing. Don’t take criticism too seriously. Does anyone talk about the failures of a successful person? Nobody talks about your failures once you succeed.
4. Measure efforts, not results.
A wise man would measure someone based on efforts, attitude, focus, perseverance, but NOT based on results. Therefore, do not blame yourself too much if you are not getting the kind of results you want. Keep trying harder and harder without regard to the results. Blaming self is a negative psychological pattern. Remember, your mind is your best friend, not an enemy. Don’t measure your results, measure your efforts.
5. Ten failures doesn’t guarantee eleventh one.
We fall into a fallacious argument that if a coin that was tossed ten times turned Heads, eleventh time too it would be Heads. Or another fallacious argument is, the coin that turned ten times Heads, will now turn Tails, as it had turned ten times Heads already. It’s not like that. Every time you toss a coin, it may be tails or heads. It is an independent event; hence its previous outcomes do not determine the current outcome. This applies to job too. Good news is, with right amount of preparation, the probability of you getting a job is higher than a coin tossing to Heads.
6. Success and failure is a game of God.
Can you tell me the last time you could accurately predict the outcome of a cricket match? Okay, last time when you accurately predicted what marks you would get next year? It doesn’t happen right. Life is a strange game played by god. Success and failure are not in our hands. All we can do, and all we should do is try our level best. Tell yourself repeatedly that Success and failure is a game of the God.
Hope these short tips were helpful. Forward this article to all your friends whom you feel are having tough time in job search.
Go ahead to this article to learn 9 ways to deal with job search depression.
About the Author: Sridhar Jammalamadaka is the Editor of Interview Mantra. He is a student pursuing masters in International Institute of Information Technology. With over 4 years of IT experience, he is obsessed with software programming and computer technologies. He loves to see a software come to life in its development life cycle. He is a person who defies "mob mentality" and a deeply spiritual and a strong believer of moral values and righteousness. Through this website, he wishes to gather a large community of aspiring engineers, entrepreneurs and professionals from all parts of the globe. You can connect with him on Facebook - http://www.facebook.com/sridhar.j